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"Clean up, Clean up, Everybody Everywhere, Clean up, Clean up Everybody Do Your Share." These are the lyrics that came to mind when I first read this assignment. If you don't know, these are the lyrics to a popular children's song that is usually sung during clean up time in school. Cleaning house is a task that can be as easy as throwing away old toys because you are older now and don't desire them or as hard as letting go of a 25 year marriage because it wasn't healthy for you. Cleaning House happens when we desire deliverance or a new opening from something, someone, or even some place. R&B artist/actress Whitney Huston (Brown), decided after a 14 year marriage, a 12 year old daughter, and countless run-ins with drugs and alcohol, it was time to call it quits and as we say in this blog, "clean house." Huston and Bobby Brown, husband of 14 years, are said to be getting a divorce. Whether it was too much drugs, the abuse, or the fact that the love was just gone, the marriage is allegedly coming to a close.
Even though cleaning house is bringing something to a close, it doesn't necessarily have to be bad. The outcome can pose as something good and a step that must happen in order for you to move on to the next phase in your life. I know of a lot of times where I had to clean house whether I wanted to or not. One of which was when I was making the decision to further my education and move on to college. My senior year had to be one of my most strenuous years ever, well...thus far. I was faced with so many decisions that I had to make and they weren't easy ones. As a child I always wanted to go to Hampton University in VA, but I never wanted to leave my family behind. My mentor in High School knew that I had a great head on my shoulders and knew that I would succeed wherever I went, but she also knew that I wouldn't do as well if I stayed home, due to distraction. I expressed to my family members that I wanted to continue my education and the response that I received was, "ummm, ok...but why, aint you tired of school." With that I knew that I was all alone on my quest to finding a school that best suited me. Trying to stay local, that way I could be with my family was mainly on my mind, until I realized that they could care less one way or the other. They couldn't see my progress or my goal that I was working to achieve, so they had no excitement nor a desire to take part in my uplifting process, rather to continue their lives the way they were. This was when I realized that I had to clean house and let my cleaning on to my "security blanket(family) go.
In addition to letting my security blanket go, I also had to a let a 3 1/2 year relationship go as well. He didn't understand why I had to leave for college and was not supportive at all. Unlike my family, I had to let him go completely, but similar to them, I needed to do so to better myself and plan for my future. That episode of Clean House on the Alyssa Show, season 17, was one of the best ever. Letting go of my family and coming to Rider actually brought us closer together. Now they understand why I had to do things the way I was doing them and they support me and praise me and my accomplishments. As far as my torn relationship, I thank him. We still don't talk, maybe every so often, but he still holds a grudge that I left, but I say I thank him because he allowed me to see that he had to be in my "Clean House" episode because if not I would have been stuck the same way I was before and in addition to that, he opened the pathway for me to meet my boyfriend today.
The picture that I chose said a lot to me. There are steps in the cleaning house process. First you open your eyes, then you dry your eyes from the tears that you will cry, next you'll clear the cob webs from your heart, and lastly, deal with the uncertainty that will soon follow. Although you should "clean house" with caution, I think it can better your situation in more ways than one. So I leave you with this, "Would you rather live in a house full of clutter where you pass over issues to make things as smooth as butter, dwelling not on what you have but how things would have been if you would have left them in the past. Starting a new slate, bring forth a clean plate, one that is ready for new adventures, broaden your horizon and bring yourself to your new center where you can relax and chill because.... you have just.....Cleaned House."
Even though cleaning house is bringing something to a close, it doesn't necessarily have to be bad. The outcome can pose as something good and a step that must happen in order for you to move on to the next phase in your life. I know of a lot of times where I had to clean house whether I wanted to or not. One of which was when I was making the decision to further my education and move on to college. My senior year had to be one of my most strenuous years ever, well...thus far. I was faced with so many decisions that I had to make and they weren't easy ones. As a child I always wanted to go to Hampton University in VA, but I never wanted to leave my family behind. My mentor in High School knew that I had a great head on my shoulders and knew that I would succeed wherever I went, but she also knew that I wouldn't do as well if I stayed home, due to distraction. I expressed to my family members that I wanted to continue my education and the response that I received was, "ummm, ok...but why, aint you tired of school." With that I knew that I was all alone on my quest to finding a school that best suited me. Trying to stay local, that way I could be with my family was mainly on my mind, until I realized that they could care less one way or the other. They couldn't see my progress or my goal that I was working to achieve, so they had no excitement nor a desire to take part in my uplifting process, rather to continue their lives the way they were. This was when I realized that I had to clean house and let my cleaning on to my "security blanket(family) go.
In addition to letting my security blanket go, I also had to a let a 3 1/2 year relationship go as well. He didn't understand why I had to leave for college and was not supportive at all. Unlike my family, I had to let him go completely, but similar to them, I needed to do so to better myself and plan for my future. That episode of Clean House on the Alyssa Show, season 17, was one of the best ever. Letting go of my family and coming to Rider actually brought us closer together. Now they understand why I had to do things the way I was doing them and they support me and praise me and my accomplishments. As far as my torn relationship, I thank him. We still don't talk, maybe every so often, but he still holds a grudge that I left, but I say I thank him because he allowed me to see that he had to be in my "Clean House" episode because if not I would have been stuck the same way I was before and in addition to that, he opened the pathway for me to meet my boyfriend today.
The picture that I chose said a lot to me. There are steps in the cleaning house process. First you open your eyes, then you dry your eyes from the tears that you will cry, next you'll clear the cob webs from your heart, and lastly, deal with the uncertainty that will soon follow. Although you should "clean house" with caution, I think it can better your situation in more ways than one. So I leave you with this, "Would you rather live in a house full of clutter where you pass over issues to make things as smooth as butter, dwelling not on what you have but how things would have been if you would have left them in the past. Starting a new slate, bring forth a clean plate, one that is ready for new adventures, broaden your horizon and bring yourself to your new center where you can relax and chill because.... you have just.....Cleaned House."
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